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Another “Lemming” ER “Pastor” issues his own “Sex Challenge”

from True Discernment

January 12, 2009

“On Sunday, the first hint that the worship service was different was an announcement by the executive pastor that the sermon was rated PG-13. Parents were reminded to take their children to the youth ministries. Then there was the video clip of Smith dancing to “Let’s Talk About Sex.”

I tell you these guys are just like lemmings that follow each other off a cliff!

Now you think some might get the message when even the secular media can see straight through this shallow “teaching”! but no, they revel in their blindness and try to out do the previous “lemming” in their ignorance.

It reminds me of what the Apostle Paul said in 1 Corinthians 5:1-2:

It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and such sexual immorality as is not even named among the Gentiles—that a man has his father’s wife! And you are puffed up, and have not rather mourned,

The point that the Apostle Paul is making here is not just the seriousness of the sexual immorality that is going on, but the “church” allowing things that even the pagan (unbelieving, secular) world would not even do, would scoff at or knew was wrong!

And further that those claiming to be the church were rather “puffed up” in their blindness instead of mourning for what was going on!

These “lemmings”  who are issuing these horrendous “sex challenges” and trying to out do each other had a blindness that caused this horrendous “teaching” and it also causes them to be “puffed up” in it!

from The Sacramento Bee:

For some, it was a challenge of seemingly biblical proportions.

In his sermon Sunday, the Rev. Barry Smith called on the married couples in his flock at Impact Community Church in Sacramento to build intimacy by having sex every day for 30 days.

“Ready to have some fun?” Smith asked at the beginning of his talk.

Smith told the congregation that the four-week series called “30 Days of Sex” was about building physical and emotional intimacy in marriages. He called it every man’s fantasy and every woman’s dream.

Thou shalt have sex with your spouses seems to be the latest sermon topic among innovative, evangelical churches like Impact. A Florida pastor who offered a similar challenge to his congregation last year said the lack of sex was one of the reasons for the nation’s high divorce rate. A Texas minister who promoted a seven-day challenge last November talked about the benefits of marital sex while standing in front of a bed.

Smith said he knew some members thought the topic was too sensational, but he insisted that it is one that churches and their leaders shouldn’t ignore. Most marital problems are about money or sex, he told the worshippers gathered for the morning services.

“Too much, not enough or the wrong kind,” Smith said.

Smith, who describes his congregation as “conservative theologically but progressive in our approach,” said it’s time for Christians to end the secrecy about sex.

“I just don’t understand why people trip up on sex so much,” he said.

On Sunday, the first hint that the worship service was different was an announcement by the executive pastor that the sermon was rated PG-13. Parents were reminded to take their children to the youth ministries. Then there was the video clip of Smith dancing to “Let’s Talk About Sex.”

And he did.

Wearing jeans and a long- sleeve shirt, Smith said Impact’s series is about more than physical intimacy. He asked couples to participate in the entire program, which includes answering a questionnaire about their emotional needs and another form rating their marriage. Married couples also are asked to maintain a daily journal, have face to face conversations and of course, have sex every day.

Singles who want to participate in the program are encouraged to abstain from sex for an entire month, keep a journal and “focus on intimacy with God,” Smith said.

Smith emphasized the program is not all fun and games. “It’s a lot of hard work,” he said. Not every couple will be able to participate for 30 days, Smith said. The important part is building intimacy.

Smith and his wife of 15 years, Tammy, completed the program at 40 days.

“What can I say?,” he said, grinning as he faced the worshippers. “We’re just overachievers.”

The Smiths are parents of two children, Max, 8 and Taryn, 6. Tammy Smith said the most difficult part was “scheduling our time together.” She said it has changed their marriage.

“A man can tell you you’re his priority, but a woman needs to feel it,” said Tammy Smith. “For the first time in a long time, I feel it. He really listened to me.”

Next week, the Smiths, two other couples and a single member of the church who have finished the program will talk about their experience during Sunday services.

The 650 families who attend Impact Community Church in south Sacramento for weekly services, are used to their pastor taking unusual approaches to his ministry.

Last year, Smith launched a program called “Confessions of a Repentant Church.” Members delivered gift baskets to abortion clinics, gay bars and strip clubs to apologize for the way they may have been treated by other Christians. “We wanted them to understand that we’re not all that way,” Smith said. “We want to be relevant.”

That is why Smith decided to take on sex and marriage. Worshippers said Sunday that they liked what they heard from the pastor.

“We’ll give it a try,” said Becki Gibson of Sacramento She and her husband, Chris, have been married six years and have a 1-year-old daughter. She said having meaningful conversations every day about the relationship wasn’t going to be difficult for her. “But I think that part of the challenge will be hard for my husband.”

Jason and Christy Mizer of Elk Grove have been married 2 1/2 years. The couple, who had their arms around each other for most of the service, said they look forward to the program. “Sounds great to me. No problem,” said Jason Mizer.

One longtime married couple, sitting in the last row of the church, said they wanted to think about what they heard.

“I’m an old Baptist so this is kind of different thing for me to hear in church.” said Jack Castleberry, 70, who has been married to his wife, Elaine, for 44 years. He said he did not know if they are going to take the challenge. “It’s (sex) a Godly thing, it was created by God. We have to talk about it.”

After the services, Smith said he hadn’t gotten any negative feedback, and many told him they were sure God was going to do wonderful things in their church. One member also asked if the pastor had a series prepared for a possible baby boom at the church nine months from now.

“I didn’t expect that,” said Smith. “I guess that’s one way to grow a church.”


Written by tfheringer

January 12, 2009 at 5:10 pm

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